Vasileios Giannakopoulos

Hello again!

Long time no see, yes yes I know but I had a beautiful change in my life and my current free time is so little that i had no time until now to write a new post. However here i am again!

I had a very interesting discussion with my friend P. from Greece over Skype and I was explaining to him how things work here in The Netherlands. We are being used from the American movies to the idea that in America, when a woman is about to get married as a bride does such big and fancies weddings (please note that I didn’t refer to the groom/man because actually we do not care about these fancy weddings -most of the times-). Women always fancy big open weddings. Why? I would really like a logical answer from any of our readers. This situation sometimes refers to Cinderella’s Syndrome. What is really the Cinderella’s syndrome though? A simple Googleing refers to: this but the actual original meaning was given by that.

From my personal experience while i was growing up and even now with the younger ladies, i can see that most of them, they feel that they are depressed. They feel that they are in the wrong place in the wrong time and that there is someone out there to save them. They are looking for what some of us we call, “the prince with the white car” (probably because in our days there are no horses). What is the reason behind it? What is your opinion? I believe that since women tend to be passive beings, and passive beings they do not solve the problems but they wait for someone else to do it for them, they stay with the hands cross and they wait. And how many of us don’t we know that women are very very patient beings!

Now that I live and work in The Netherlands getting involved with the local brought me in a crisis! The people here don’t like to be married. They don’t want big fancy weddings. They live as boyfriend and girlfriend, they have families and they live happily ever after!

This brings me to the following series of questions: What is this that causes in the whole world women to have the syndrome? What is that causes women in The Netherlands not to have it? Is it a problem that the women around the golbe have it? How can we solve it? I would really like your opinion

What is the most important thing in the world? You could ask yourselves and maybe get a straight answer, but if you ask other people, you will get confused! Why? Well, imagine that you go to the desert and you start walking, you need water but there is no water, you walk more and more, and more water you need! So if someone asks you in desert what is the most important thing in the world, i am sure your answer won’t be different than just WATER!!!

If now you leave desert and you go to the pole, stay outside for couple of hours (don’t forget to put something on you though, it is freezing up there!), if someone asks you then, what is the most important thing in the world, your answer probably would be heat!

By this, we can conclude that the most important thing in the world of humans is what each one of us misses. However, after detailed observation, I have realized that all people are interested for one thing, communication. When we are young, we cry for our parents to pay attention to us when they don’t. Later, we crave for having “buddies”, very good friends in school. And after getting to university, we start looking for a mate… The kind of mate we are looking for it is not as important as the fact that we want to have some contact, some kind of communication with other human beings.

Someone could argue, that there are people who do not want to communicate. They leave the social life and stay in the mountains or in the forest, where humans do not exist. In return to this argument, I would add the fact that people like monks, they seek actual communication with God. If God exists or what is the kind of form in which He/She exists it is beyond the scope of this article.

Even if there are people who do not like to communicate with other people or even supreme beings, still they like to have a form of communication. There are people who talk to plants, animals, imaginary friends etc. It is part of our existance the need for communication.

Now that I am getting older (in comparison with earlier times of myself), I realize that money, career and sex is the least important things in life. We need money for well being/living. We need a career so we can have the money and for communicating with others and showing that we can do something better than they do or others can. Sex is a more complicated matter, because as with the career, sex can show to other people that we have the ability to do something other people can but also combines companionship and plesure and other attributes.

As a conclusion to my thoughts, I believe that beyond the needs of the human body there are needs of the human soul, if you like, the human psychology. And one of these needs is the need for companionship and communication. I believe that is the reason why people like to get married as well, or at least, one of the reasons

Having read various books about economy using simplified science, such as a book of Robert Kiyosaki I have understood that economy in our days is such a complicated issue. In addition to that, and after reading the three books of Conversations with God I have to transfer a very interesting question that is inside these books. Why do we pay more money people like actors and singers and less people who are responsible for the education of our youngsters aka the people who tomorrow will be the head of the human race! So in other words we reword more the people who do not do anything to make us better people (except if we all agree that the TV and music is created such a way that educate/entartain us) rather than those who actually do something for us!

In our times, the people who has to do with science and education and generally knowledge have the lowest annual salaries. Of course the same for Police Units and other important professions (I am talking about Greece only since I am not aware what are the salaries of these specific professions around the globe).

What is your opinion? Do you think this is a good practice? Do you think that surve us as a race? Do you think this should change somehow? And if so, why today is like that? How should it change?

Hello, here I am again. Today I have decided to change the subject of discussion. Distant erotic relationships is something that existed always, however nowadays we can see that distant relationships is something that it is very common. Why do you think is this? From the point of view of a man and from the point of view of a woman. Why do you think that people make this selection, while in their social life there is the option of both gendres?

From the point of view of a man, would it be that it is easier to have multiple parallel relationships? Or is it maybe the fact that it saves time from the speed of looking? Or even better maybe that hearing “no” from the woman makes it less painful?

Thinking out of the box, I believe it is not just one reason. As a man, looking my past social life, I realize that distant relationship gives time to yourself to realize what is that you want, make it less painful (due to the fact that since touching is not a part of the deal you don’t get so easily attached), and in addition you have time to learn the personality of the other person.

From the point of view of a woman, I believe that they prefer distant relations because makes them feel more safe. They do not get “invaded” in their personal life and in addition to that, they can find out who is the guy before they get involved with him sexually.

However I don’t think these are the only reasons. What makes you choose this or the other way? Why do we become less sociable outside our house and more infront of a computer?